I've decided now is the time to share our surprise with you, our dear friends and family!!! Are you excited? Are you at the edge of your seat??? YOU SHOULD BE!!!
Because here it is......
We have a baby on the way!!!!!
I hope you will find it in your hearts to forgive us for all the secrecy up to this point but after having a miscarriage last November I was afraid that this baby might not be able to stay with us either.
This has not been a pregnancy without complications. You can stop reading here if you don't want to hear the gory details...
Right about the same time I started having problems with the last pregnancy (about 4-5 weeks), cramping, bleeding, etc. It began to happen again with this pregnancy. After 10 straight days of dark colored bleeding I called my OB. Before I learned I was pregnant I had visited my OB/GYN to bring him up to date with my miscarriage and possible fertility issues I had been having since we last lived here. So one morning I went straight in to my OB and had an ultrasound where we saw a perfect gestational sac that was measuring right on target, a fetal pole and a tiny yolk sac..Yay! I was told to go home and take it easy. I scheduled my 8 week ultrasound as we left the office.
After another week of bleeding, I began to have some small amounts of red bleeding and called the OB's office right away. I was put on be rest. We sent Belen to stay with her grandparents in Utah for the 2 weeks until my ultrasound. That was hard but it was the only way. I knew that I couldn't go through another miscarriage...especially as I imagined the guilt associated with losing a baby when all I had to do was take it easy for a few days...I talked to her on the phone every day.
At 7 weeks I had a very scary evening with very painful cramping and lots of bright red bleeding. After about one hour the bleeding lightened, changed color and the cramping subsided. I called the OB's office first thing in the morning and went in for my ultrasound just a few days early. I was so scared that this was going to be a repeat of my last experience...going in, and learning that the baby did not have a heartbeat and had stopped developing weeks before. It was a cruel experience. My body had been sending me normal pregnancy symptoms as it continued to retain the fetus and the placenta it also continued to produce pregnancy hormones...
This time our experience would be different. When I saw the tiny fluttering on the screen I had to ask to make sure that I was seeing correctly....the baby's heartbeat. Strong, without a doubt. 158 beats per minute, regular, normal, healthy. Our baby was okay! Measuring perfectly in size. My due date was set for September 14th.
Not everything about this ultrasound was perfect. The doctor spotted the source of all the bleeding. He called it a Retro-Placental Hemorrhage (aka Subchorionic Hemorrhage). He said that there was still a small risk of miscarriage but he wasn't overly concerned about the bleeding. This type of complication is caused as the placenta is implanting and patching in to the vast blood supply of the uterus, blood can at times pool in that area(behind the placenta). He said that either I will continue to see it as it is expelled, my body may absorb is as the pregnancy progresses or it will hang out until I deliver and be resolved at that point. He classified it as a small bleed and took me off bed rest. As I left I was reminded to contact them immediately if I see any more bright red bleeding. I haven't, the baby seems to be growing well.
I had planned to wait until my next appointment, when I could hear the baby's heartbeat again and be comforted, to announce that we are having another baby. But, today I felt the baby move for the first time. This morning I rolled partially over on my belly and I felt a firm, swift kick. Unmistakable. I'm almost 14 weeks. I can only feel the baby when I am still. I felt Belen at 16 weeks. I am reassured. I hope now I can begin to build a relationship with this little one...one that isn't cloaked in lingering fear.